i need some advice. so i had a get-together with my friends lastnight, we went to a nice dinner and movie for my birthday then came back to my house for a sleepover. the whole night my best friend was acting kind of quiet and strange.. and i asked her quite a few times if she was okay and she said she was.. and once we got back to my house she was acting normal again. but then, i noticed she was texting someone on her phone all night, and then suddenly at 3am when we were all up talking, she says “my moms coming to get me.” and we all said “why?” and she says “i dont know, she said she’ll tell me once she gets here.” and i said, “well, call her to see what it is. it must be important since it’s 3am.” and she said “nah, it’s okay i’ll just ask her when she gets here.” and i stared at her because i knew that she was lying about something because she was acting stiff and awkward and she totally knew that i was suspicious. so anyway, her mom came, and she left. once she left me and my 2 friends sat there just confused because i have never had an issue with my best friend like this. something is going on. my friends think its because where we went to a movie & dinner was where she and her ex-boyfriend were exactly a year ago.. but she’s over him so i don’t get it.
i’m so frustrated that a best friend would walk out like that. it’s disrespectful because it was MY birthday dinner & movie night. i feel like i have a right to be angry, but i’m afraid to talk to her because i’m so scared we’ll fight. which i will try to prevent the best i can… we’ve been so close to eacother for over a year now, she tells me everything. i just don’t get it.
should i just call her and talk it out calmly? i’m just freaking out. i’m hoping for the best.
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Seriously, 3AM? If your mom gets you that late, it’s usually because she was having a family emergency. Someone may have died, or become very ill. She must have been feeling odd about the cinema / restaurant at first, with possibly the mild feeling someone was not well, and then when her mom called she was in denial that anything could be wrong. Don’t be angry at her. It’s clearly something bad happening here. She will be very upset about it, and she doesn’t need you whining about her having to leave when something much, much worse has happened to her.
That, or her mom is a total freak, paranoid about her little princess getting mixed up in boys, drink and drugs. Which is totally not what was going on, but you know parents. Texting at a party is bad, unless she really needed to be talking because of something serious. So you have full right to be angry if nobody died.
You should talk to her before getting angry. She may have very good reason to be upset and have to leave early. You have to think it’s serious if her mom came to get her at that time of morning. She may be embarrassed or too upset to talk about it. She may also be willing to talk to you without the others around. A good friend would think more of there friend than of themselves.
good luck!
Just ask her what’s wrong, and be kind and comforting because there’s obviously something up because her mum came to get her at 3am. Don’t get angry because that won’t get you anywhere, and you don’t want to risk losing your best friend. It won’t be nothing, so be understanding. She herself is probably sorry to have left your birthday, so getting angry might make her feel worse.
Dont freak out. That would honestly be a dumb thing to do. Just forgive and forget. Really, if its SO bad that she has to leave, it must be a very personal thing and I dont think you have the right to be angry. It isnt like she left JUST to ruin your party. Just ask her why (nicely) if you are curious.
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you should just talk to her, she could be going through a bad time at home and she may not want to tell anybody, she may just want to keep it to her self. if i was you i would just talk to her and ask her if she was ok and if she says she does not want to talk about it then you should just leave it. but if you do not want to get in to a fight you should tell her that, and she might listen.
Source(s): i am a peer mentor at school and so i am traint to help with this sort of stuff
Shes aruging refuse what she says and a, walk to beach you do
call her and ask her why she left early last night xx
i think you will be able to tell if she is lieing xx
Source(s): im having similar probs with friends at the mo xx
Yes talk to her
ask for another sleep over if she refuses then something is wronge