I just graduated from college this past January. I had a difficult time finding a job and decided to enlist in the Navy and start my life there. I don’t ship until April however, and that means I would’ve lived at home with my mom (essentially mooching off of her) for a year and 3 months. I feel awful as I’ve always been independent. I’m trying to find a job around time so I can help support her. I talk to my friends who’ve graduated and found jobs and are buying cars/houses (or at least they say so) and it just makes me feel like a failure.
Have you ever felt like this? I know I’ll be on my own in a few months, but it’s awful being 24 and living with your mom.
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You made it through college and are enlisting in the Navy. I’m proud of you. Spend this time with your parents and think of it as an ending point. You will start a new life in the Navy. Congratulations! I wish we had more young women like you.
I don’t think you should feel like a failure or a mooch. The best thing you can do is to contribute to the household. Getting a job, even if it’s waiting on tables, is your first step. You need to show that you are making an effort.
In the mean time, make sure you are helping your mom as much as you can around the house. She may not say it, but if you are not helping with the cleaning and cooking, she may resent you being there. Don’t wait for her to ask for help, just do it. She will appreciate your effort. And it might just make you feel better about being there as well.
You are not a failure.You graduate from college and you lived with your mom so what! There is always a reason for what is handed to us.You kept your mom company and not lonely.You could have just been a loser on drugs and living with your mom.Now that is a failure.But you have goals
and your taking your steps as a independent women.Don’t look down on yourself.Your a wonderful daughter that cares and loves her mom.Don’t compare yourself to your graduated friends.They are who they are.So in time you can and will have all you want too.But you spending that time with your mom is the most valuable and precious reward in all. You are you! So be happy with what you have accomplished and the great person your mom raised.Everything takes time and stop thinking your a failure.Because you haven’t failed anyone.
I don’t think it is as bad as you think. There is a rise in adults living with their parents longer, because of the lack of jobs. I know many that still do at that age. Don’t worry about it, you will be on your own before you know it.
Nope never did feel that way but I was an emancipated teen and on my own at16, never went back to live with my parents after that.
sometimes life turns out that way. when you get your naval career going just pay your mom back then. she probably doesn’t mind helping you anyway and don’t worry about what your friends have or what they’re doing you’ll catch up with them or may even pass them!
Nah, it just means you need you need to look for your soulmate better.