I know a couple who broke up recently after 3 years together and they have a child together. One week later he had a new girlfriend and now its been a month and she has new boyfriend.
How do people move on so quickly?
Any time I have a breakup(and theres not kids involved) I fall to pieces for months and months and it takes me a long time to move on once I’ve truly loved someone.
I was a year and a half single after my last breakup before I could move on.
I just don’t understand, how do other people do it? To me its like a bereavement and I grieve for a long time.
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Yes, a friend of mine was telling me recently how she had difficulty with a break up and letting go. I had no idea she’d felt like that because she had a new boyfriend 2 months after! My ex and I broke up over 2 months ago and I’m nowhere near being ready for anything like that. Though, I think the endings of our relationships were different.
Some people do just move on fast, I guess emotionally either they’d checked out before (as I suspect happened in the above example) or emotionally they’re messed up and it’s what is called a rebound relationship. Again, if they really know beyond a doubt they both gave it their all and it still didn’t work, IMO that would make a break up easier.
What surprises me is how they find people to date so quickly, I’m shy and find it hard to meet new people but I do have a lot of friends, I do not get dates and offers all the time though, some people are just lucky I guess!
They are shallow minded people…no heart and no love between them. If they themselves are happy, they don’t care about whether or not the other person is happy. They just don’t care about anything or anyone but themselves. There’s more people out there like that than you care to want to realize. They use people and then throw them away. I doubt they care for their kids either. At this point in time its not acceptable to not feel a natural affection for ones kids. But give it time. That will change for the worse too. Look around you and watch the news about the number of kids being abandoned, killed, abused, neglected. Its pitiful.
You’re normal if breaking up with someone or losing someone you care for bothers you for months. The people you are talking about, are quickly becoming the “norm” in this day and age. It’s very sick and it’s scary and it’s sad. Please don’t become like them and be careful not to hook up with anyone like them. You’ll get hurt.
Source(s): To much experience.
In many cases, moving on and bereavement are relative. They find someone else really quickly to ‘fill that gap’ and take their minds off the pain. What many don’t realise, is that 90% of rebound relationships break up, and then they are back with that pain all over again.
their relationship is probably way over long before they went on their separate ways. also, different people has different ways of coping with a break up. some people get over a relationship by having another one straight away. and some people just recover over a loss faster than the other..there is no right or wrong way in doing it i guess. different strokes for different folks…
it just depends on the type of relationship and person. you heal a little slower, they healed faster. maybe the relationship was over for quite sometime before the breakup. that would make it easier to move on.
Some people have a positive attitude and see break ups as a fresh new start instead of wallowing in self-pity and crying for a year.
I would rather be happy for a year and half than sad and depressed about breaking up with someone who didn’t want me in the first place.
Some people are weaker than others, i guess.
They weren’t truly in love with each other. It was a marriage of convenience for them, usually financial. So, the break up isn’t so hard on them.
More expectations more disappointments.
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