I get so frustrated. because i always feel that i have to take care of my two kids 24/7. they are 2 years old and 8 months. i watch them all day long and all night long. my husband works during the day. but when he comes home he just wants to play his video games. he says he will get up in the middle of the night with them. but when they cry, he just ignores them and sleeps, and i end up having to get up when they cry and get them back to sleep. i just get so upset and angry. why should he get to sleep all the time and never have any responsibilites, but i have to do every thing for the kids, or it doesn’t get done?
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Because you let him. If he works and you don’t, taking care of the kids IS your job, but that doesn’t mean he can’t take over once in a while to give you a little break. Does he work weekends? If not, kick him out of bed one Fri or Sat night (when he doesn’t have to get up for work the next morning) when they cry. Also, plan a shopping trip one Sat or Sun afternoon with a friend & have him watch the kids. A father does have SOME responsibilities, even if his wife is a housewife. But YOU have to put your foot down & make it happen.
I think that is quite normal if you are a stay-at-home mom and he goes off to work everyday. If that is the case, I don’t think your husband should be the one that gets up in the middle of the night. Just try to schedule some time for yourself where you get a break from the kids. Get a babysitter or trade off with a friend and go out to lunch or to the movies one day a week. It doesn’t have to be your husband who gives you the break from the kids. You will be refreshed. When your kids get a bit older, I predict that your husband will be more helpful.
Like so many mothers, especially single ones.
I suspect that you are so busy with the children, that you may well find that you don’t have time to cook him meals, etc. Or if you feel like going out one evening, just go.
do remember the fact that he works all day to support you and the children, but ask him to help more.
don’t try and be forceful or aggressive about it, and you should let him know you appreciate him working to support the family, but you cant do it all by yourself.