My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him….?

I know how you feel. I hear bout teens having sex all the time. For of all, are you a teen or an adult? I don’t know that, so all I can say is tell your boyfriend that you don’t know if you’re ready to have sex, even though you really want to. People say ‘everyone is doing it’ all the time, which is not true. Teens are getting pregnant and STDs from having sex just because someone told them ‘everyone is doing it’, or thinking ‘it will never happen to me’. Well, it can happen to anybody and everybody. Remember to use condoms and birth control to prevent STDs and pregnancy, if you’re not planning to have a baby. I think you both should sit down and talk to each other about it first before doing it. It’ll help you figure out if you’re really really ready to have sex. Remember, the first time you have sex has a huge impact on what you’re sex life will be like in the future. That’s why its best to have sex after you get married. Along with marriage and sex, there is commitment. Without commitment in a relationship, sex is not considered a beautiful thing because people think its a game these days and that is really sad. And, of course you want it to be a pleasurable one. The longer you wait and the more you talk about it, the more ready you’ll be, and the more pleasurable it will be. Good luck.

First of all, we’ve got some missing information: How old are you? How old is he? How long have you been dating?

Secondly, DO NOT have sex unless you’re 10% sure you’re ready for it. It will change the dynamic of your relationship forever. Sometimes it’s good and sometimes it’s not-so-good. Preserving sex until your relationship has matured, or even until you’re married is a very beautiful thing that everyone has lost sight of. Besides, birth control (you ARE using BC, RIGHT???) is never 1% guaranteed, so only move forward if you know you could handle bearing this guy’s child.

With that in mind, if you KNOW you’re ready for that step, when the time comes, don’t force it. The act will evolve naturally and you won’t even have to think about “what to do.”

Good luck!

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The short, simple answer is this: If you’re not *sure* you want to do it don’t. If you’re not sure you are ready, don’t! Your body wants to, but are you emotionally ready? Have you thought about what possible emotional, social or mental implications could come afterward? Don’t give in to pressure from anyone. If you aren’t ready stand your ground no matter what. That in itself is a powerful thing you can do for yourself. Most importantly, have you completely covered the birth control issue??? If not, do it now before you even go all the way! Birth control *must* come *first*! (Don’t let any guy tell you he will “pull out” to prevent pregnancy, it does not work!)

That said, if you decide to have sex don’t worry about not knowing what to do. You will know what to do, trust your body’s instincts in that regard.

Again, make sure that you use some type of birth control and condoms to prevent any possible STD. No birth control, no sex!

Good luck to you!

Just because he wants to, doesn’t mean you HAVE to. It seems you aren’t completely comfortable with the idea and that means you need more time to make a good choice. So, for now, hold off on anything you may regret. You also seem like you never have had sex before, so if you aren’t comfortable now, imagine how you may be when you in the throws of passion…some people can’t control themselves and it’s hard to make decisions in that state of mind. So, til you are more sure of yourself, you should wait on it….sex is a wonderful experience if you make it to be, so don’t rush into it. You will one of these days, everyone just about does, so it will be there for you too. Cool your jets, make right choices(CONDOMS please, and any other protection you consider before you do anything.) Don’t let the guy talk you out of using protection either, if he tries to, then don’t do with him, period. At that point he is more about himself than the both of you, so why give in!

You’re not ready for a sexual relationship with him or with any guy at this point in your life or you wouldn’t be asking. On that ground alone I wouldn’t do it. You have your whole life ahead of you, and if hes worth it and if he is really “the one” he will understand and wait for you to “be ready” without pressuring you into it. Virginity is a rarity … save yourself for the one you plan to spend the rest of your life with. ( And no – I ain’t old – im only 16 myself!)

DONT “DO” IT, if you do this you will it will forever scar you, that one person said, c’mon Everyones “doing” it, but i say dont, I’m a guy and this may sound like the opposite of most guys, but i believe in not “doing” it until marriage, now i dot want a whole debate going on, but i think you should seriously think of the concequences, now if you dont do it and your BF dumps you WHO cares, you decided something, and you dont want to give yourself away because you want to keep your BF.

girl im 15 and i not sure how old you are but probably close to my age i am assuming and i really dont think you should have sex. you want to make sure he really loves you and he might say he does but once he has had his fun with you (sex) then he will go on to another girl and i dont want you to get hurt like that and i dont think you should give yourself up right away. make him want you more. at least play hard to get. dont be easy for sure. good luck in your decision. be careful

if your unsure, your not ready. If you have doubts, maybe you should either talk to him or wait a bit longer? and if your worried about what to do, just do what feels right, and remember, communication with your boyfriend is a very good thing to have! xx

I think if hes telling you he wants to have sex with you then hes got his reasoning wrong and possibly if you tell him your not ready that will show his true feelings.

I think you have already answered your question, you are not ready to have sex so don’t. if you have to think about it then you should wait. if he is really into you then he will wait until you are ready and not pressure you into having sex. when you do have it, it should be something that you want to do and not because he asked or want to.